1. LACK OF CONFIDENCE:

If you have the confidence, the respect and the love for yourself that others are looking for themselves from you, not only will you come off as more attractive and approachable to others, you will be better able to love and accept someone else.

Confidence means you know who you are, what you want and you aren't afraid to show it. Everybody has their own perfect match, and just because you may not fit the stereotype of what society defines as manly, sexy, funny, etc. doesn't mean you aren't all of those things to the right person. Just do you, that way when you have a connection with someone you know they like you for the real you.An act will only get you so far in the game.

2. LACK OF HONESTY

So you’re going try new things in an effort to meet people, acquire a new look, and adopt some new perspectives? That’s just what most people who start dating do and it definitely helps if you’re a house dweller, with a funky wardrobe and an ancient dating philosophy, but remember to stay true to who you are and what you really want.

If you’re not an adrenaline junkie, kidloving, organic-greens fanatic, don’t make yourself out to be one. You don’t need to because there is someone out there who will love you for you.

In any situation, honesty really is the best policy, both for you and your date. You can't build a relationship on an alter ego.

3. LACK OF COMMITMENT

To succeed, you must be willing to make the commitment to the search. This means prepare for some not-so ideal candidates, monotonous conversations, and awkward goodbyes.

Accept that before you find the right person, you will go through a few bad ones and don’t let this deter you from your happiness.

Realistically, you won't just magically bump into "the one" and "just know." You can't sit around waiting for a fairy god mother, and no "the third times the charm" probably won't work in this case either.

If you really want it, you're going to have to invest a lot of time, effort, and spirit.